Access

After 20 years of mamihood, I should be less surprised by the hoops various systems make you jump through in order to be “engaged”, “involved” or whatever other term these systems use to judge “parental involvement”. But I’m still shocked, even as I go through the hoops with all the privileges that I have: language,…

Un Año Que Viene, Otro Que Se Va

It’s that time of year, time to wrap presents, make coquito, and look back at the year that is just about to come to a close and what a year it has been. I’ve traveled more for work more than ever. I committed more time to blogging and writing and relationships ended and started and…

FA 3020

Yes, I can be added as another single Rican mother to the food stamp rolls, for a month and a half at least. ::sigh:: I went, for the first time ever to the food stamp office yesterday. I entered holding my breath and my nerves. When I got to the first floor, the line was…

Shift

I thought I felt a shift coming on.  I thought that when he said that he wouldn’t do anything to harm the girls and me, that went beyond the promises to never lay his hands on me again. Safety is measured in more than not being afraid of being hurt. It comes from a sense of security, a…

Slipping into Solteria?

Expectations set me up for heartbreak every time and it’s not the fault of the other it’s my fault my poetic temperment and wanting to hold out hope for the best in people thinking egotistically that I bring that out in people. Pero no. It never seems to work that way. During one of our…

My Life is Not a Template

No women. There is a reason why my story is not in books for me to sign, why I have to carve out my own space through electric wires and trasform actions into electrictrifies palabras, why I spit on the ground and into teclado taps, why I push my way in and pull myself out….

I Hate…

…the NYC Department of Education and the NYC Department of Health thank you very much.