The Second Shift is Real

When I first moved to Los Angeles the problem, according to my pareja, was that I wasn’t getting enough freelance work. I had a column charting my move from Caribbean centric single mami’hood NYC life to Mexican/Central American centric cohabitation in Los Angeles. I was writing posts for political websites and blogging for my own…

The Ones Who Date Night Vs The Ones Who Fight

We used to be the ones who did date nights,the ones who professed our admiration which grew into love. First in private direct messages, letters, phone calls, Twitter, Hangouts, telegrams, cross-country bedroom visits, morning after coffee and pillow talk. We even had our own hashtag that others used when they would witness our exchanges. It…

Slipping into Solteria?

Expectations set me up for heartbreak every time and it’s not the fault of the other it’s my fault my poetic temperment and wanting to hold out hope for the best in people thinking egotistically that I bring that out in people. Pero no. It never seems to work that way. During one of our…

Indiscretion

There was none here. There was no foolishness no not knowing. I knew he knew and soon everyone else that need to did as well even if we continue to play it off each discussing the other in pronouns, initials, pseudonyms, and geographical locations relegating certain acts to certain spaces and places. Ya pa’que vale…

Things I’d Rather Not Think About at 6:00 am

When I open my eyes I think about coffee. I wonder what will I blog about for VivirLatino. I wonder who is awake on twitter. I wonder how long Miss Poroto will sleep. Now I also worry, worry about how long will i have this bed to sleep in, worry about not being able to…

Breaking Up is Hard to Do Pero Does it Really Have to Be?

When I entered the relastionship that is now ending, I did so with so many expectations and anxiety. It’s not like I had great examples of healthy relationships growing up with lies, egos, infidelities, edible crotchless panties and suicide attempts all as shining lights of what a heterosexual marriage like life could end in. No…